What To Eat When Grief Is Eating You

When you’re grieving – particularly after the death of a loved one – you might experience decision fatigue. This happens in response to the number of decisions you’ve been forced to make over a very short period of time, deteriorating the quality of those decisions.

As you can imagine, what you eat – the result of small decisions we make throughout each day – is a common victim of decision fatigue. Suddenly, making “good” choices about what you eat seems strenuous and even debilitating. So you opt out of the decision altogether and forgo eating, or make the easiest and most comforting decision and gulp down an unhealthy meal of French fries and donut holes.

As I said before, this isn’t a time when you want to be faced with decisions day-in and day-out. In my book, “What I Wish I’d Known: Finding Your Way Through the Tunnel of Grief,” I outline grocery lists and meal plans to alleviate these decisions. Planning is key; if you already know what you’re going to eat during the day (and bonus if it’s already prepared!), there’s no decision required. A few other things I’ve learned along the way:

  • Prepare “emergency” frozen meals in advance so they’re ready to go when you need something healthy fast.
  • Use paper plates and plastic utensils if dish-duty seems overwhelming. Eating healthy is more important than reducing your carbon footprint right now.
  • Try to enjoy cooking. Put on soothing background music and experiment to keep yourself interested.
  • Eat real food, not processed food. Stock your fridge with fresh produce, leafy greens, nuts, chicken and other protein sources. Avoid boxes, cans and microwave dinners.
  • Cut back on caffeine, sugary drinks, white breads, alcohol and sweet desserts. They’re not going to help you right now.
  • Plan each day’s meals ahead of time (and prep the food so it’s easy to throw together or pull out of the fridge). In my book I offer a full week’s meal plan. Here’s a sample:

Breakfast: egg, spinach and feta cheese scramble

Lunch: large salad with turkey

Snack: apple with almond butter

Dinner: turkey spinach burger with or without the bun, sweet potato and mixed-green salad with dressing

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